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Following in the footsteps of the Greatest Generation

By Steve Brawner
© 2014 by Steve Brawner Communications

“Where are the men like that today?”

My wife, Melissa, asked me that question during a phone conversation June 17. I did not take offense because I knew to which man she referred. She had been reading the obituary of Ed Penick, 92, husband, father, grandfather, CEO of Worthen Bank, community leader, and World War II photoreconnaissance pilot.

I became acquainted with Ed about 12 years ago when Melissa and I were hired to write his and wife Evelyn’s joint biography. His life was marked by integrity, loyalty, and love for his family and friends. By the time we became acquainted, the years and 10 grandchildren had softened his heart, but not his character. His voice often would catch as he recounted his memories, but only very briefly. A man like that maintains control.

His devotion to his grandchildren was almost comical. He would take the whole clan to the lakehouse and make them spend the morning doing chores, always exhorting them to “Be happy in your work!” He led them in fun activities and taught them patriotic songs. At his funeral, granddaughter Evelyn Wade spoke of family members discovering a lockbox that they assumed would be filled with his important documents. Indeed, important items were inside – letters and report cards from his grandkids. “We were his prized possessions,” she said.

Ed was one of many members of his generation whom I’ve gotten to know as biography subjects, friends and family members. Cletis Overton of Malvern survived the Bataan Death March and years of brutal imprisonment, escaped from a sinking ship, and built a life for himself and his family. His story of courage, humility and faith inspired many people. Wallace Eldridge of Wynne crossed the English Channel three days after D-Day and fought his way across Europe. Many years later, he became my tennis partner, and still is a friend. My grandfather, George Brawner, served on a Navy troop transport, fought in the Battle of Okinawa, and with wife Dorothy raised four kids. His service in the Navy was appropriate, because he was an anchor for the family.

Most of the men and women of that era have left us, and the rest will be leaving us soon. According to the National World War II Museum in New Orleans, the 16 million Americans who served in uniform in that conflict have dwindled to a little more than a million. The youngest of them are in their late 80s now, and they are dying at a rate of 555 each day. After this year, there will be no World War II veterans left in Congress. The Axis Powers couldn’t stop them, but no one defeats Father Time.

What an amazing people they have been, and what lives they have led. They conquered the Great Depression, won a World War, and handed the rest of us a free and prosperous country. Certainly, that generation had its shortcomings – racial equality being perhaps the most obvious one. But we succeeding generations have our own deeds left undone. No one ever said our grandparents were the Perfect Generation. Just the Greatest one.

Following in their footsteps will not be easy. The rest of us have been disadvantaged by our advantageous upbringings. Unlike our elders, we have never saved the world once, much less several times. We’ve experienced a few recessions, but not a character-shaping depression.

But we have been given this gift: We can learn from our elders’ examples. The quality that most defined men like Ed Penick wasn’t their occasional heroism but their lifelong faithfulness. By learning that quality, the rest of us can become men like that today.

In fact, we must. We don’t have to equal the Greatest Generation, but, lest we dishonor its memory, we have to be good enough.

Walkers seek a home for every waiting child

iWalk for Waiting pic

Near midfield at Little Rock’s War Memorial Stadium Saturday stood displayed the photos of 140 children. Their ages and races differed, and the snapshots revealed their unique personalties. But they had this in common: They all are waiting to be adopted.

The Arkansas Heart Gallery is a coordinated effort involving the Arkansas Division of Children and Family Services and Project Zero, an organization seeking a home for every child in Arkansas who needs one. Project Zero’s slogan is “Imagine a world where 1+1 = 0.”

Project Zero founder Christie Erwin, who has fostered 50 children and adopted two, said the Heart Gallery personalizes the issue in a way that statistics cannot. More photos are coming thanks to volunteer professional photographers across the state.

“The exciting thing is when we’re taking kids out,” she said. “Like this morning, as we were setting it up, there was a little guy that was placed this week, so we took his picture out.”

The Heart Gallery was on display Saturday as part of the Walk for the Waiting, an annual event that raises money and awareness of the need for adoptive and foster families. The event has raised $186,000 so far, according to its website Tuesday. (Click on walkforthewaiting.org to donate.)

Along with Project Zero, the Walk is sponsored by two other organizations. One of those is The Call, which trains prospective adoptive and foster families and, like Project Zero, mobilizes churches to take up the cause. The other is Immerse Arkansas, which manages four houses for young people who are aging out of the foster system without ever finding a family.

About 3,900 children are currently in foster care in Arkansas, and about 7,700 spend some time in the system annually. Parental rights for 615 children were terminated last year. Those kids are the waiting.

Without much media fanfare, a church-based movement is making real progress in recruiting adoptive and foster families. Adoptions in Arkansas increased from 601 in 2010 to 677 last year thanks in part to these group’s efforts. One in four foster families in Arkansas was originally recruited by The CALL, which operates in 29 counties and is about to add three more, according to Executive Director Lauri Currier.

“Not everybody is called to foster or adopt, but everybody’s called to care,” she said in an interview somewhere near midfield. “Everybody’s called to do something.”

Nathan and Amy James of North Little Rock are among those doing something. After seeing a CALL video at church, they began fostering children and then adopted three, all sisters or half-sisters. Last year, the family raised the most of any Walk for the Waiting participants – $10,000 thanks to a series of Facebook videos where people declared, “No more waiting!” This year, life’s busyness and a balky computer hindered their efforts, but they still have raised $4,000.

They are giving their adoptive daughters opportunities they otherwise wouldn’t have had. But Nathan said having a diverse family also has benefited their biological children.

“We’re showing them sacrificial love,” he said. “We’re showing them what it’s like to sacrifice for someone else at a young age, that we think it’s important.”

Immerse Arkansas, meanwhile, helps never-adopted young people transition into adulthood. Founder Eric Gilmore said his clients, robbed of a stable home life during their childhood, sometimes lack purpose and motivation. But those traits can be learned, as they were by one young man who became involved in Immerse as an 18-year-old.

“He’s 21 now. A few weeks ago, he moved into his own place, and he’s working two jobs, paying for all his bills, taking care of his own needs and has surprised himself,” Gilmore said.

Gilmore told walkers that he hopes Immerse Arkansas is put out of business someday. That would only happen if every child has a family.

Can you imagine a world like that, where 1+1=0? Actually, I know some people who do more than imagine.

Helping foster kids when they no longer are kids

Eric and Kara Gilmore were working as house parents for a group home for foster kids when he decided he needed to do more and enrolled at UALR to earn a master’s degree in social work. He was selling ads for a radio station when one of the foster kids they had worked with got into trouble.

Here’s how he describes it.

“She left with one bag of clothes and one night’s worth of her bipolar medications. And that was her entrance into adulthood.

“So that lasted, I think, about a month. They kicked her out. She lived with us for a little while but decided that she wanted to be a prostitute, and that was where she was going to make the most money. So unfortunately, that’s what she’s still doing. …

“It was one of those things where we decided two things: One, this is not OK. There’s an injustice here. And two, we can do something about it.”

That was what they were supposed to do – help foster kids who age out of the system to transition into adulthood. It’s a difficult path for all of us but can especially so for foster kids. According to a 2007 report by The Pew Charitable Trusts, one in five foster kids who age out will become homeless within two years.

The Gilmores founded Immerse Arkansas, which now provides an apartment, counseling, and volunteer mentors for six ex-foster kids. But there are 250 who age out every year.

So far, Immerse Arkansas is in its early stages. Open for business since August 2010, this year’s budget is $65,000, but it has recently raised a chunk of money that will enable it to serve at least 15 people.

Want to invest in this great organization? Read more here.

Here’s a column I wrote about Immerse Arkansas for the Arkansas News Bureau.

Healing hearts, including her own

After Joyce Raynor’s son, Charles, was murdered, she started a ministry that helps crime victims and where she teaches life skills to prison inmates. Then one day her son’s killer was in the class.

Joyce started the Center in 2001 less than a year after her son, Charles Jr., was murdered by two men in Little Rock. Its mission is to help victims of crime, but part of its purpose was to help Joyce heal. The wounds were so deep that she found it hard to get out of bed, but with God’s help, she forgave the men who did it.

As part of her ministry, Joyce started teaching life skills to inmates. One day at Tucker Max, one of her son’s killers, Christopher Bush, was there. Already warned that this would happen, she was prepared to see his face for the first time since he was sentenced to 40 years in prison eight years earlier.

Before starting the class, Joyce told the rest of the inmates that she couldn’t talk about forgiveness and reconciliation without practicing them herself. She approached Bush.

“Mr. Bush, today is, I guess, our day of reconciliation,” she said. “I understand that you have something that you want to say to me. Guess what? This is your time.”

He asked for permission to stand and apologized for what he had done to her family.

“What did you do?”

“For killing your son.”

“My son has a name, Mr. Bush.” She reminded the rest of the class that they always included the names of their victims in their discussions.

“I’m sorry for killing Charles Raynor Jr., that everyone called Chuck,” he said.

She told him she appreciated it and that she already had forgiven him, but if he was being insincere, that was between him and God.

For more, check out my column this week for the Arkansas News Bureau.